Aging Parents and Role Reversal

When the roles reverse it is an emotional change as well as a necessary physical change for them. They need help, direction and sometimes a nudge to acknowledge that their life is changing and needs are growing. Some times we have to watch out for emotional as well as physical changes. This article offers insite to Aging, Depression, Suicide And EQ. It is sometimes extremely difficult for our parents to tell us what they have. So, as you are putting your life together and making sure your ducks are all in a row, be doing the same for your elderly parents. Discuss all subjects openly and they start to do the same. The generation before the baby boomers were under the impression that after they retired, social security and the companies they worked for would take care of them. You have to initiate the conversation as they don't want to make their loved ones uncomfortable.

Times have changed and you have to step in. Ask if they have the important items somewhere safe.

1. Do you have a will?

2. Health Proxy?

3. Who would you want to manage your property, finances and make medical decisions if you were unable?

4. Power of Attorney

5. Where are important papers kept.

6. Regular Bills and when they are paid.

7. Medical information..kept where? or posted near doorway.

8. Address Book for important contacts.

9. Find out last wishes.

10.Titles to property and vehicles.

Aging Parents do not always want to discuss these things but believe me, it's better to know than not. There are many books on the market to help you keep your sanity. A few listed here may help...check out what Amazon.com has to help you in your quest for sanity.

Sometimes looking to see what Services are available that may help all involved to keep a handle on your life issues is a little time consuming but necessary. There are online services listed on our Resource Page

Taking on a new stance and direction with our parental relationships can be challenging. Seeing them thru our childlike eyes or thru our current adult eyes makes a huge difference in our communication skills. I urge you to acknowledge your selves, take a deep breath and talk to your parents like equals. They are people just like you and when treated and responded to as such, will give you the time and attention you deserve. Enjoy them. Don't always expect a lecture or disapproval. Smile and tell them that was then and this is now. There are important facts you need to know and they are the holders of that info. Good Luck and remember to enjoy the time...not everything needs to be done by you. No taking control to get even.
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